First watch this. Sometimes when I am at a restaurant, amusement park, zoo, grocery store with my husband this is exactly how I feel. At first it bothered me and I would complain. Then I would just be angry on the inside, which is never a good idea. Later, as my skin grew thicker and I grew more bitter I would just start checking Facebook and Twitter over and over again until I was at the point of actually being sick of checking up on my 500 plus really good friends. ( yes, some are my true best friends, but most are just folks I have met randomly through life).
Then today I watched this video and realized that although I love John and when we do connect we laugh and have a nice time we have lost something. We cannot talk at a restaurant any longer, we have nothing to talk about it. I have started asking him to turn off his phone, but it is always work, or his family or him playing a damn word on Words with Friends. I mean he is not cheating on me with the phone, but he is alienating me from spending time with him and suddenly unless it is about our kids we have zilch to talk about.
Ugh. Sometimes technology is not a good thing. Sometimes it is a conversation connection wrecker. THIS is WHAT I WANT TO CHANGE!
Lisa says
January 7, 2014 atYep that’s what our world has become. I’ve seen the video before. It’s one reason Hubby and I have not bought a smart phone. We have a regular cell phone, no texting or internet. I’ve even been slowly getting away from Facebook. He’s deleted his profile. I check maybe once a day, depending on what I am doing. My daughter used to be that way. She used to sleep with the phone in her hand! Now, when we have our get-togethers, she puts down her phone as I pointed out we get one hour every couple of weeks. It’s the least she could do and she has. Maybe hide his phone lol..or better yet talk about how YOU feel. I learned if you say I feel…you get better reaction as they can’t negate your feelings :). Just a thought.
Pam List says
January 7, 2014 atI did email him today. The video just really struck me about how we interact, especially when we are out to dinner.
Lisa says
January 8, 2014 atGood. I hope the both of you can come to an understanding. I hope the video strikes him too 🙂 Hugs!
Sydney says
January 9, 2014 atTo be honest, Pam, this is one of the reasons I was scared to get an iPhone. I was afraid I would lose real connections with Nik and our family and friends, too.